Ponder this:

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Thursday thirteen

asks, "...what you think is important in a marriage…"

  1. Hold on loosely.
  2. Remain your own person with your own interests and your own friends.
  3. Forgiving transgressions is good; forgetting is of paramount importance.
  4. Always encourage even if you need to temper the encouragement with calm and practical advice.
  5. Work together when you can. If you don’t work well together on projects, see #4.
  6. Remember that the wedding day is one day. Consider the real importance of momentary problems in the face of the fact that you’ll still be married tomorrow, and a year from now, and five years from now.
  7. Institute a daily habit of thinking of your spouse’s good attributes.
  8. Know when to talk and when to shut up.
  9. Don’t listen to or repeat gossip about other people’s marriages.
  10. Don’t spend all the money you have.
  11. Know that being married is different from living together.
  12. If he doesn’t take out the garbage, put down the toilet seat, put his dirty laundry in the hamper, just quietly do it yourself. There are things he does for you that you don’t even know about.
  13. Let everyone know how glad you are you married him. Always.


Carolynn Anctil said...

This excellent, wise, wise, advice.

I would add one more: Tell your partner you love him/her daily.


Alice Audrey said...

Good list. It took me 24 years to figure out the talking vs not talking thing.

Anonymous said...

Thanks, this was a great and thoughtful list.

Barbara said...

these are things every married, and soon to be married people should read (and practise) often

I am Harriet said...

There you go!

Deena said...

Great advice. :) I especially loved #12. How many marital squabbles would be solved by practicing just that one principle!

Happy TT!

Andi said...

This list is absolutely beautiful. I'm going to print it out and put it someplace where I can see it often!

My favorite is #1 Hold on loosely.

Janet said...

I like #12 :-)

Kimmie said...

I love that list! And I would add the old adage of never going to bed angry. I really believe in it!

My T13

Sharon P Pope said...

Great advice, June! :)

Clara said...

Very good advice.